New to strap on sex? Here’s what you need to know.
LQ’s editor did a guest article for What’s on Queer BC about strap on sex. Here’s an excerpt and link to the full story.
A woman friend asked me recently for advice about buying a dildo and harness for strap on sex. Good harnesses and dildos are often expensive, so making a choice that doesn’t fit the needs of you and your partner can be costly. The following is some good basic advice to help make for a great first experience.
Strap-On Harness buying tips
Buy something sturdy, made of a material that has a small amount of give, but doesn’t stretch. You want the dill to be firmly attached to you so you can control the angle and it feels connected to your body. Good materials are a sturdy leather or rubber. Garment leather or elastic undergarments are going to result in a more wobbly and less precise experience. If you like the look or feel, or plan to use the cowgirl (receiver on top) position, go for it, but otherwise you’ll likely prefer something more secure. Keep in mind you’re going to need to wash this harness, and leather will get stiff in water, so spring for the leather cleaner and keep it oiled between uses.
Dildos for Strap on Sex
A good dildo for strap on sex will have a flared base to help hold it in the harness. You insert the dill into the hole in the harness and if it doesn’t have a flared base, it will slide right out under pressure. You can purchase donut shaped disks to put over the dildo to give it a bit more traction.