I have a guilty confession. After a breakup a couple of years ago, I binge-listened to the cheesy hetero dating advice book (on audiobook) “He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys” by Greg Behrent and Liz Tuccillo. It’s strangely comforting and […]
by Sophia Kelly (c) Lesbian Quarterly I bought my genderqueer girlfriend a silk bow tie for Christmas. It looks fabulous – green silk with a nice subtle pattern on it and super classy. For extra difficulty I bought it while visiting Calgary, which if you […]
By Sophia Kelly (c) Lesbian Quarterly
Most resources for learning tantra are extremely hetero-normative. All the exercises and and practice assume that everyone is in opposite sex, opposite gender pair and that all the women involved are interested in connecting with their ‘inner feminine’. It can be hard to wade through all the appalling drek to get to the good stuff.
This is really too bad, because sacred sexuality and the massage and energy practices associated with tantra practice can be really great for women who love women. The detailed vulva / vagina massage instructions alone are well worth investigating tantra. If you enjoy sexuality that is focussed on spiritual and energetic connection as well as the physical then Tantra practice has a lot to offer.
One of the best resources I have found for learning tantra in a much less hetero normative setting is Barbara Carellas’ Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century. It includes detailed, practical, content for women, men and transfolk who wish to practice tantra, and doesn’t assume anything about what combinations you will want to pair up in, or what toys or tools you’d like to use. It was quite refreshing.
So if you are looking to staying in with your significant woman this Valentines day, or a practical, hands-on antidote to lesbian bed death, this book is highly recommended.
A Statistics Canada study released in March of this year found that women in Canada still earn only 87 cents for every dollar a man earns. The way I see it, women are my team, and that it’s a good thing to support one another. […]
I’m taking part in NaNoWriMo (National Novel Writing Month) again this year and invite you to join me. Participants write a 50,000 word novel during the month of November, with support from the NaNoWriMo organization. Check it out at www.nanowrimo.org You can follow my progress (or lack thereof) and be one of my ‘writing buddies’ and compete against me by visiting my profile at: http://www.nanowrimo.org/eng/user/563340
You can do it! The world needs more lesbian novelists, don’t you think?